Reap what you sow

Happy Thursday evening everyone!

How was your day? We are one day closer to yet another amazing weekend. Weekends sure are nice, and for me, they are especially nice when I don’t have myself weighed down with to-do’s. This month however, I have quite a few to-do’s and while I’m enjoying the journey, I’m also enjoying just being home. What about you guys? Any plans for the weekend? Oh, I forgot, it is Super Bowl Sunday!! Who are you rootin’ for? Patriots? Seahawks? It should be a great game.

Tonight, I received a rather negative text message from my boy’s dad. At first, I was angry, but then, I became quite sad. You see, my youngest is getting married in May to an incredible young girl. They’re high school sweethearts and they are so wonderful together. My son is happy and I have no doubt he’s going to make an incredible husband, and one day, he’ll be a wonderful dad. Kev and Jagger want kiddos. I may be a grammy someday. My older son, well, he and his wife are a pretty hard no on wanting kids, and that’s okay. I support whatever choices the boys make, after-all, it’s their life.

The scripture in the Bible that talks about reaping what we sow has always been one that I’ve feared. I mean, the scripture was always presented to me in a way that made me feel like I had to be perfect. I had to please everyone around me. I had to do, do, do. Tonight though, I searched for the scripture, and I prayed about it and I came to a different understanding. An understanding that I never considered in my previous life.

Galatians 6:7-8 (ESV): “Do not be deceived: God is not mocked, for whatever one sows, that will he also reap. For the one who sows to his own flesh will from the flesh reap corruption, but the one who sows to the Spirit will from the Spirit reap eternal life”. 

The message I received tonight from my ex was saying he refuses to come to our son’s engagement party. He blames me for not being able to attend. For a moment, I accepted the guilt of his choice not to attend. I thought about suggesting to Kev and Jag’s to move the party to another home instead of mine, but you know what, this engagement party isn’t about me. It’s not about my ex. It’s about our son and his future wife. It’s a celebration of their love and commitment to each other. My ex blaming me for “not being able to attend”, because it’s at my home, well, that’s on him.

Don’t get me wrong, it would be a tad uncomfortable having him here, but with 50 people coming, we never even need to speak.

I have two sons with my ex-husband. They are always going to be our children. We will forever be connected because of our sons, so why not be at the very least, Christ like in the way we treat one another.

Galatians is teaching us that our actions have consequences. When we hold onto resentments and anger, we are sowing to our flesh and not to the spirit. We are told to treat each other with respect. Love your neighbor. We don’t have to be besties with our neighbor but loving them means we are kind. We don’t seek our own agenda, instead, we seek peace and harmony.

Divorce is generally never a nice thing. There are reasons why people get divorced. My reason, well, someday I’ll share my story, but for now, I can tell you this, it took me a long time to gather up the courage to leave. It took me years to escape the guilt and even to this day, I get triggered and I find myself owning everyone’s feelings on the matter.

As I prayed tonight about how to proceed with the engagement party I came to realize, my son’s dad not coming because it’s at my home, well, that’s on him. His anger towards me is being taken out on our son and his beautiful fiancé.

I’ll admit, when I saw his name on the guest list, I was concerned. I was nervous and I had to bite my tongue. My first thought was to ask, WHY??? But the why is simple, because it’s my son’s father and it’s my future daughter-in-law’s father-in-law to be.

I was reminded through prayer that this isn’t about me. It’s not about my ex. It’s about our son and for that reason, whatever he and his future bride want, well, that’s what I’ll do.

By letting go and letting God I was able to embrace the peace that He poured over me. I know one thing’s for sure; I couldn’t have released all those emotions if it weren’t for Him.

When we put ourselves and our own feeling above what’s in the best interest of others, we are adopting the spirit of the flesh, rather than the spirit of our Lord.

As I was reflecting on this Bible verse, I was scrolling for more understanding, and I came across this question and answer from BibleN3rd.

How can I apply Galatians 6-7 to my life?

For whatever one sows, that will he also reap.” (Galatians 6:7). This is a powerful reminder that our actions, whether good or bad, have consequences. If we sow kindness, patience, and love, we will reap blessings. Conversely, sowing selfishness, anger, or division leads to destruction. Oct 30, 2025
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I’m in no way trying to cast negative on my ex, rather, this lesson isn’t about him. It’s about how I reacted to him and his message. It was up to me to either accept that he isn’t in a place where he wants to be a part of our son’s engagement party. It’s up to me to either accept it, let go and let God, or I can snap back at him and keep the anger fueled.

I’m glad I chose to keep quiet and not respond.

Like John is always telling me, not every trial and challenge is our lesson, perhaps it’s the other person’s lesson. Johns helped me appreciate that we are here to learn lessons. We are here to become better people, the best versions of ourselves. We all fall short; thus, we are imperfect human beings.

We say things that come out offensive. We might not mean it to be, but our words sometimes cut deeper than a knife. It’s when we fail to accept the part we play in any given situation that we tend to become more close-minded.

I hope my son’s dad comes around and is able to find a way to be less harsh with me and remember that this upcoming engagement party and wedding aren’t about he and I, it’s about Kevin. This is his big, special day and he deserves to be celebrated by both parents.

If we both choose to sit in the anger, it will continue to hurt our son and he deserves better from his parents, both of us.

This is great advice for anyone who has children and are divorced or separated. It’s a great reminder on how we should treat the other parent.

I know you’ve probably all heard this saying, but I think it bears repeating: A child is 50% you and 50% the other parent, whether you like it or not. When we cut down or belittle our exes in front of our kids, we are basically saying our kiddo is a bad person too.

If we fail to show up and support our kids because the other parent will be there, that’s sending a negative message to our kid. We’re hurting our child more than we’re hurting one another. The hate needs to stop. We are hurting our children when we put our feelings towards the other parent above what’s in the best interest of the child. Grown child or young child, they are affected.

It’s best to treat one another with respect and kindness. I mean, how often do you really need to interact with your ex, especially when your kiddos are grown. There’s always going to be times when you need to be in the same room as the person you are divorced from, so you might as well do your best to make it tolerable, better yet, pleasant.

Well guys, that’s my two cents on reaping what you sow. My heart hurts that my son’s dad won’t be sharing in celebrating his engagement. He will be missing time that he’ll never be able to get back.

Anger truly is a monster.

Well guys, I’m off to bed now. May peace be with you.

Until next time, don’t forget, Love Life++ Hugs.