Twisted tales

Happy Tuesday evening everyone!

How is everyone doing on this incredible Tuesday evening? Shoot me a text or drop me a comment, I’d love to hear all about your day.

My day was mixed with some good and some not so good. Ended up in urgent care yet again. Now wait, before you ask if I’m doing too much, the answer is not really. You see, upon my release from the hospital, I ended up with a bladder infection. Well, the meds didn’t work. This morning, I woke up in some pain, and it only progressed as the day went on. So, I figured instead of letting it get worse, I went and got some heavy-duty medication. Seeing that the doctor feels it never really cleared up fully, he gave me not only a stronger medication, but two. I’m feeling better already.

So that was my day in a nutshell. Overall, it was still a pretty good day and I’m grateful that I had another day here in this life.

I ran across this quote that I wanted to share with you all. Someone recently said to me in reply to one of my posts, Being Happy: “I would love to know how to not let such behavior mess with me and cause me so much distress.”

You see, I wrote about how to stay happy despite others behaviors towards us. I posed the following questions: How do we not allow the negative or bad behavior of another person to affect us. How do we put the brakes on someone spewing hatred, perhaps even slandering our name to others, or do we put the brakes on? What if a person is seeking vengeance upon us?

I think the quote below answers these questions. The advice might not be easy, but it’s necessary.

Sometimes in life for whatever reason, we go back to the relationship (not always romantic, sometimes it’s those toxic friendships) that we’ve been warned about. The ones where we know the person isn’t good to have in our life, but for whatever reason, we think we can help them be the better versions of themselves. Maybe we selfishly in some weird way think we can save them from themselves. Maybe we think we are enough for them.

Guess what. More than likely, we won’t be able the answer to their bad, toxic and negative behaviors. People who don’t take accountability for their own actions. People who blame you for their mistakes. People who turn situations on you, well, I think it’s safe to say, we aren’t the answer to helping them change. They need to want to change on their own. They need to take their issues to God and ask Him to guide them to a better life. In the meantime, we can continue to offer up prayer and ask Him to help them.

I can only imagine folks who are full of pride, who avoid accountability. Those that twist the truth to make themselves look like the victim or to make themselves look good, they must have a pretty sad story buried deep in their souls, otherwise, I can’t even imagine how they got to be so cruel.

So, to answer the question/statement; “I would love to know how to not let such behavior mess with me and cause me so much distress,” in my opinion, as hard as it may be, sometimes it’s best to quietly walk away. Sometimes it’s best to cut ties and say goodbye. It’s hard. It’s sad and it might not even be fair, but to keep our own sanity, those toxic relationships will either own us, break us, destroy us or take over our lives.

If you’ve found yourself in this kind of situation, seek answers and help from a professional. The thoughts given here are merely my personal thoughts and in no way are they meant to tell you what to do in your situation. I am not qualified to do that.

Twisted tales usually find their way to being exposed. The teller must save their reputation, though most people know the teller is nothing but an imposter, yet they fear the tellers rage, so they keep quiet. They engage in talk. They take a side, that is, until the teller turns on them.

Life is too short for the drama. It’s hard enough without adding more to it.

Twisted tales or a healthier you? It’s a decision we all have to make on our own and believe me, I know it’s not an easy one to make and it should never be made without seeking the proper resources to help guide you. Clergy. Mental health professional. Trusted friend. Someone that truly knows you and knows your story.

Well guys, it’s late and I need to say goodnight for now. Thank you for stopping by and taking the time to read tonight’s blog.

Please don’t forget, until next time, Love Life++ Hugs.