Making the heart happy

Happy Saturday morning,

How are you all doing on this amazing Saturday? Got any good plans for the weekend? Shoot me a text or drop me a comment, I’d love to hear all about your plans, adventures and memory making endeavors.

Today I’ll be writing for awhile. I’ll be doing a little cleaning and getting things ready for my son to come spend the weekend with me. Kevin and I have a little shopping to do, then he’ll head to the airport to pick up the woman of our dreams.

Haha, yes, Jagger is the woman of our dreams. I couldn’t of picked a better partner for him to journey through life with. She’s his compliment, his rock, his biggest supporter, his lover, his best friend and she is family. I love her so much and all I can say about not only Jagger, but my daughter-in-law Kaitlyn is, my boys better not mess things up with these amazing women. They are perfect for my sons and they’ve captured not only their hearts, but mine too.

Kevin is hosting a fantasy football party here at the lake house tomorrow. It’s the first one I’ve been a part of since his dad and I split up, so I’m a little extra excited about tomorrow. The guys and gals that will be here enjoying the draft are all like sons and daughters to me. I’ve seen them all grow up into some of the finest people anyone could know. They’re all successful. Amongst the group tomorrow, we’ll have some teachers, doctors, nurses, police officers, contractors, students and one or two special needs pathologists. A great group for sure.

I have to take a quick moment to share this photo with you all. This is my little Molly girl. She’s decided she needs a little extra cuddle time while I write. She wants me to rub her belly. Since I can’t do that and write, she’ll just nestle up and take a little nappy. I do love this little pup of mine. I inherited her from my aunt who is in skilled nursing. Molly was only supposed to be a temporary addition to the family, but three years later, she’s made her mark and has decided to stay forever with us. The bonus is, she makes my heart so happy.

As promised I’m going to share a little quote out of my new Thomas Kinkade book. Seems to be a nice way to launch into the weekend.

“Decide that joy is the bue you want your heart to be. Then start making the little and large choices that over time will paint your heart happy.”-Thomas Kinkade.

While walking the pups this morning I talked to God. I was thanking him for my home, for the amazing lake view I have and for my family and friends. I was sharing with Him how exhausted I have been and I asked him to guide me on this path of life and I asked Him to help me make the right choices so I’m not so tired and frustrated. I asked Him to give me the strength I once had to be able to get things done and get my life more organized.

I know, I had a list of asks this morning. It’s just one of those moments when I needed to ask. I might not get the answers I want, but He will give me the answers I need.

I was grateful to have the energy to walk my pups, get a couple of loads of laundry underway and get my garden watered. Now I get to take the time to write my blog and once I’m done I’ll get Kevin and Jaggers room ready as they do plan to spend the weekend here with me. Once that’s done, I’ll work on a couple chapters in my book followed by laundry in between and then I’ll make sure my kitchen is done.

It’ll be nice to have my home not only looking clean, but smelling clean too. I know I’m OCD when it comes to cleaning and I’ve tried my hardest to let things go a little bit, but, it’s not who I am. I like my home to be just so. Well, every room except my loft/craft room. For some reason, I feel inspired when I have projects out. Maybe it’s because when I see those things laying around, I’m more inclined to craft.

“People say, a good heart is always happy. But I think a good heart gets hurt very badly too often because it expects only good things from others.”-Mind Journal.

Those words couldn’t be more true and there’s something about this quote that finally hit home and made tons of sense. Did you notice the word EXPECTS? That’s the problem right there. That’s why good hearted people get hurt. We expect good things from others. We need to stop expecting things or having expectations of others. Life is our own journey, we need to stop with the expectations and once we do, we can begin to realize that it’s up to us to make our own hearts happy.

I was talking to a friend the other day and she was telling me her ex husband keeps asking to come home. He tells her there’s no happiness without her. When she says no, she doesn’t trust him, he become angry and belligerent towards her. He truly hasn’t changed, but the point isn’t whether he’s changed or not. The point is, he relies on her to make him happy. He can’t find ways to be happy being a father, a friend or anything else. He’s consumed himself so much with relying on her for his sole happiness.

That’s way to much power to give someone. It’s too much power to give away.

“Happiness is a choice, not a result. Nothing will make you happy until you choose to be happy. No person will make you happy until you decide to be happy. Your happiness will not come to you. It can only come from you.”-Unknown.

Some people rely so much on someone else to make them happy that they miss out on their own journey of life. When we become so consumed and dependent upon others for our happiness, quite honestly, we become miserable. Nobody can meet our expectations nor we theirs.

“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself-no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are-COMPLETELY; the good and the bad-and make changes as YOU see fit-not because you think someone else wants you to be different.”-Stacey Charter.

While walking this morning I felt His presence and I felt my heart being softened. I felt my frustration being lifted and I felt a burst of energy to just take care of the things I need to take care of. Like my therapist says, “you can only control the things in your own space.” She then extends her arms and makes a circle with her hands intertwined . “Everything in this inner space, you control, everything outside of your arms, not for you to control.”

Making my space, my inner circle smaller, perhaps it will be easier to not have the urge to carry the world on my shoulders. The only thing I need to truly worry about is being true to me, myself and I.

So my question to you is this, “what makes you happy?” Not who makes you happy, but what makes you happy?

For me, writing, sewing, crafting, gardening and even though I don’t have a lot of time anymore, cooking and baking.

I also enjoy time with my family and friends. I enjoy board games and bar-b-ques. I enjoy seeing my sons happy and I enjoy entertaining, but only on occasion now. Not all the time. my energy just isn’t there anymore.

“The happy heart runs with the river, floats on air, lifts to the music, soars with the eagle, hopes with the prayer.”-Maya Angelou.

I hope your heart is happy. I pray your days are bright and your roads are smooth. May God lessen your burdens so they are light. Follow your dreams and touch the stars. I pray you never forget just how special you are. You are wonderfully and uniquely made. Be your own source of happiness.

Now go out and enjoy this wonderful Saturday. Open your hearts, be happy, listen to some music, dance in the sprinklers, and make some fun memories that will last you a lifetime.

Until next time my dear readers, don’t forget, Love Life++ Hugs.