For others

Happy Wednesday,

How are you all doing on this wonderful Wednesday evening? We are half way through yet another week. Time is flying by. Tomorrow is another new month, and it just so happens to be my birthday month. Any plans for the weekend? Shoot me a text or drop me a comment, I’d love to hear from you.

Today was extra busy. I had a couple of doctor appointments along with lots of testing. The good news, during one of my appointments the doctor has cleared me and said the swelling of my optical nerves are finally under control and looking good. What a relief that was to hear.

I decided to spend a little time in San Diego today after my appointments finished up. I had my eyes dilated and with heavy traffic heading back home, I figured it would be a lot safer to just lay low and head home after traffic dies down.

Today I also met with my therapist. I have one more visit with her before my twelve sessions are finished. Sad that the insurance only sees fit for twelve visits when she suggest I continue therapy for at least a year. I’ll have to continue outside of the scope of insurance. Oh well, mental health is just as important as taking care of our physical health.

Today was a great session. I was telling her how overwhelmed I’m feeling with a task that my attorney has given me to do. I know I can have my niece help me with the task, but I hate to burden her anymore than I have too.

Funny, Carly is always eager to help me and she always tells me, “it’s never a burden.”

Dr. Gomez and I talked over my procrastination and she then took the time to ensure that one of my tasks was completed. She made the necessary phone calls to get me the answers I needed from the insurance company. Now that is a doctor who cares.

While Dr. Gomez was helping me, she recognized something in me that I hadn’t really paid much attention too. She said she’s noticed that I have an easier time helping others, yet when it comes to myself, I shut down. That was a hard thing to hear. I used to be able to handle simple tasks like the one she helped me with, however, lately, it seems like those types of tasks become so out of my reach.

Later in the afternoon, I was talking with Carly and we were on a subject of how I needed to take care of something someone asked me to do for them. I was outlining the plan to Carly and she said, “now there’s my aunt, the one who used to do it all.”

We talked for awhile and we both realized that it is so much easier helping others over ourselves. When we have to do something for ourselves, we tend to become overwhelmed. Not in every aspect of our lives, but in the aspect of the bigger things that weigh us down and cause us stress.

Carly said its so much easier to help someone else, especially someone we love. She’s right. It is easier. It’s like it takes our burdens and lessens them because our focus has turned to someone else. This by no means takes our burden away, it simply puts it to the side.

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yourself in service of others.” Mahatma Ghandi.

Those words could not be more true. When we take time to be in service to others, we take the focus off our own problems and generally we walk away feeling good for how we helped someone else.

“Doing something for yourself gives motivation, but doing something for others gives meaning.”-Maxime Lagace’.

Maybe this is the meaning of life? Doing for others. Maybe by doing good for others and towards others the world stands a chance of becoming a better place.

We can be the very reason someone believes in the goodness of people. Wouldn’t that be a wonderful gift? Knowing we could possibly give someone reason to believe in something?

I learned today that it’s easier for me to do for someone else rather than myself. I also learned that I made someone feel good for allowing them to help me. It was a wonderful feeling.

I don’t often let others do for me. I feel guilty for it. This is something I’m working on. I am coming to realize though, it’s not fair to take the gift of giving away from the person offering their help. I know how good I feel when I can help someone and when I don’t allow it in my own life, I’m learning, it’s actually selfish on my part.

“Helping others is perhaps the greatest joy! You cannot have a perfect day without helping others with no thought of getting something in return.”-John Wooden.

I hope tomorrow, we can all help someone, even if it’s in the smallest of ways. Next time someone offers to help us with something, while not taking advantage of the situation, let them. We all deserve to receive the gift of giving.

Well guys, it’s about time for me to be heading home. I do hope your day is as wonderful as you.

Until next time, don’t forget, Love Life++ Hugs.