Self-Confidence

Happy Friday

How is everyone doing on this fine Friday afternoon? It certainly is cloudy and looks like more rain, however, forecast says we’ll keep dry until Sunday. I am enjoying sitting here writing my blog, while listening to some of my county music. I love the rain and the weather people are promising us more this coming week. We have officially welcomed February, wet. Can you believe we are in February already. Holy smokes, 2024 is in full motion and is buzzing by.

I’m excited for the weekend. John and Grant will be joining me at the lake, bringing back my little Molly girl and of course, Oreo too. We’ll be going to a fun Chinese New Year party on Saturday evening and I’m sure John will get to enjoy some guy time with his Sunday, breakfast with the boys.

Hey, don’t forget to shoot me a text, drop me a comment or hit the like button, I love hearing from everyone.

It’s been crazy busy here and once again, I’m neglecting the things I love. I do need to learn to manage my time better. I’ve been told it’s the creative side of me that causes me to be unorganized and unable to time manage, and while I love that, I still need to figure out a way to accomplish things the way I once did.

I came across a quote that I think goes along with my struggle to feel accomplished. “Because whether you are: searching for a job, working on your art, starting a business, going back to school, training for a race, or just getting through today, I bet you’re missing this important piece: You are not giving yourself enough credit. And that’s deflating your confidence faster than one of those cheap pool floats I got on Amazon last year. Sure, there are times you’re going to get rejected. Give yourself the credit you deserve, because you are a superstar.”-unknown.

My dear friends, I think it’s safe to say, we all could work on our self-confidence. I have this thought, and please correct me if I’m totally off base or if you see it differently. I love hearing everyone’s perspective on things. You see, I feel like we sometimes don’t have self-confidence because we are so busy worrying what others think of us. We become so consumed trying to please everyone, when in reality, we need to take care of ourselves, so we can have enough to care for others.

For me, I get so busy wanting to be everything for everyone, I don’t have the energy or time to do what I need to do. With this cycle I’m in, I’m finding that I neglect the things I love and one of those is my writing. Funny, I wrote a book and it’s done, other than tweaking a few things, but overall, it’s at the point I could send it off to publishers and I haven’t because I’m not taking the time I need to just do it. My mind is so overwhelmed, hence, the things I love keep getting pushed to a back burner.

Lately, I’ve been paralyzed with hesitation. I do the what if’s, and one of the biggest what if’s is, what if nobody likes my book. What if I get it published and nobody reads it. But you know what, I need to embrace the fact, all that could be true., and what if it’s not. I need to refocus and begin to say, but what if people buy it? What if they read it? What if my dream comes true and I help not only one person, but hundreds, perhaps millions. I’ll never know which what if, if I don’t just take a moment and send my book to publishers.

I need to give myself enough credit that my writing is good enough. I must move through my paralyzing hesitation, wipe off my sweaty palms, toss out the boatload of worry I carry around and take that first step toward seeing my dreams come true. What a dream come true to have my book on the shelf and seeing it as I walk into a book store, knowing the core of my soul is written across those pages that are nestled between the covers of that book that is nestled on the shelf amongst some of our greatest authors.

I get so excited when I talk with others about the book I wrote, then, I feel shamed because it’s still tucked away, hidden in my computer, just waiting to be released. I’m holding the words I wrote hostage in this device that sits upon my lap as I write more blogs. I’m ignoring my book, because I don’t have the confidence in myself to realize, I’m good enough to have it published. I’m holding myself back from becoming the author I’ve dreamt of becoming since I was a little girl. Instead of fear, I need to hold onto the excitement I have when I tell people about my book. I must release the fear, because in all reality, there’s nothing really to be fearful of. To be a winner, I need to act like winner, I need to tap into my self-confidence and realize, I’m good enough to join the hundreds upon hundreds of authors on those shelves in every book store across our nation.

“If you feel something calling you to dance or write or paint or sing, please refuse to worry about whether you’re good enough. Just do it.”-Glennon Doyle.

I’d like to think, with this mind-set, life would be so much better. Who cares whose watching you dance in the rain with your kiddo, who cares who throws negative into your positive attitude. It really is non of our business how others perceive the world, and it doesn’t really matter how they think we should live or be. When we give that much of our happiness to others, we will always be chasing after something, because in someone’s eyes, it’s never good enough. Guess what though, you are good enough. I’m good enough. If others don’t love me, like me, accept me, then it’s obvious we’re on different paths and that’s even okay.

“The decisions we make in this moment are based either in love or fear. Many of us choose our path out of fear disguised as practicality. What we really want seems impossibly out of reach and ridiculous to expect. So we never dare to ask the universe for it. If you can fail at what you don’t want, you might as well take a chance on doing what you love.”-Jim Carrey.

I guess my question to everyone reading this is, will you tap into your own self confidence and take a chance on what you love? I’m ready. I know I’ve been saying this for a long time, but what else is left, other than to just take the chance and who knows, perhaps I’ll become the writer and author I’ve always wanted to be. Maybe I’ll meet Oprah and sit across from her on a stage, talking about the why’s in my book. Maybe I’ll become the next Wayne Dyer, helping people realize their worth while continuing to see my own. Maybe I’ll get a chance to be on Ted Talks giving others the inspiration I’ve been given. Maybe I’ll become successful with my Podcast, so much so, my sons will all be by my side, working with me, helping others. MAYBE!!!

Maybe starts today. Self-confidence begins with finding that little bit of hope that is hidden deep within. Life begins each and every morning with thanking God for another day. Maybe starts with stopping the distractions and moving towards the dream.

I hope you all come along for the journey, but more importantly, I hope today is your day to begin with your own maybe and I hope you have the self-confidence to move towards your dreams. After-all, you are so uniquely made. You are beautiful and you are worthy.

Welcome to Friday, welcome to a new day and a new beginning. I do hope you are all well and thriving out there, where ever you may be. Please don’t forget, until next time, Love Life++