True love of a man

Happy Thursday,

How is everyone doing on this incredible morning? All is well here in my neck of the woods. John comes home this morning. Excited to see him. I’m sure he’ll be tired though, he’s on Denver time, which is only an hour ahead of us here in California, but he did have to get up extra early to make it to the airport on time. How about you all? One more day until the weekend lands in our laps.

Do you have any plans? I have tons to get done. I need to finish up at least 6 projects for the craft sale next month and with that being said, I also need to learn to pour resin over wood. If the technique turns out, I’ll have to share a photo of my rather large, Santa Claus.

This morning, I was up super early. I couldn’t sleep, probably because I forgot to take my pain meds last night and by the time I remembered, it was too late. If I take my Lyrica too late, I’m mush the next day and that’s an issue when I need to be up and on a freeway with all the other travelers and commuters.

Since I’m up dark and early (before the sun comes up), I decided to go through my blog and clean up the drafts I’ve started or thought about starting to see if the topics are still something I feel the energy to write about and I came across the one for today: The meaning of true love from a man and what it means and looks like.

In my previous life, the one where I spent over 30 years with my now ex-husband, I yearned to be seen, loved and valued. I worked endlessly and tirelessly to try and make him notice me, but it never happened, at least not until I left. At that point, it was too late.

Over the years I slowly began to find my voice. I found a drizzle of strength and began expressing my wants and needs. Every request and plea was met with a blank stare or “kissing’s for the birds.” Now I’m kissing and he’s alone with the birds.

In all seriousness though, leaving wasn’t about the kissing, it was about not being valued. It was about feeling like I was finally escaping slavery. It was about freedom of not only my life, but religion as well. It was about being free to speak, think and breathe. It was about being a whole person and not someone’s doormat.

So, what is the meaning of true love from a man?

“The meaning of true love from a man.

I hate to say this but most women will go their entire lifetime and never experience the meaning of actual true love.

It’s even slightly depressing to think that most people will never understand how powerful this picture actually is.

This gentleman is a prime example of how men should be treating their partner with everyday that passes.

We unfortunately live in a generation with men who have no idea what it takes to be a real man.

Let me give you a couple examples of a real man ……

A real man asks about your day and genuinely cares about the answer.

A real man respects your boundaries and never forces you to do anything you’re not ready to do.

He makes time for you, and takes that time to learn and understand who you are as a person.

A real man consistently shows you the definition of effort with every day that passes.

He will call you randomly throughout the day just to check on you and your mental health.

A real man is undeniably committed to you and looks for new ways to fall in love with you with every day that passes.

He makes protecting your heart a number one priority.

A real man never makes permanent decisions based on temporary emotions.

He never confuses you on where you stand in his life.

A real man apologizes when he is wrong and stays true to his character.

He doesn’t mind hurting other people’s feeling to protect yours.

A real man gives you affection without sexual expectation.

A real man refuses to entertain any women that isn’t you.

He has genuine intentions with you from day one and shows you how it truly feels to be a priority rather an option.

A real man will help you heal from the trauma that nobody apologized for.

A real man values you and would never put themselves in a position to lose you.

Take my advice and wait for the man that never lets you fall asleep at night questioning your own self-worth.”- positive vibes only.

John just proved this very moment, he’s the real meaning of a man loving a woman. Every day this week he texts me and says, “good morning beautiful. I hope you have a fantastic day.” This morning, he texted me and said, “good morning beautiful, I love you and look forward to seeing you today”, with a kissing emoji.

When Johns away on business he always texts me or calls me to say goodnight. He checks in with me throughout the day and if I’m struggling, he will take time and sit with me. I never go a day without a hug. He kisses me softly if he’s up before me and passionately before we go to sleep. He’s okay holding my hand and he loves it when I curl up next to him on the couch to cuddle.

John is a real gentleman and he’s my everything.

Well guys, I need to cut this one short. I have to get ready to head to the airport and by the looks of it, drop Grant off at school. His buddy is running super late, so I’ll just drop him off on my way.

Until next time, enjoy your day. Treat others kindly and don’t forget, Love Life++ Hugs.