Nothing wrong with you

Happy Tuesday,

How are you doing on this amazing Tuesday evening? Looks like we may finally be on the cooling down trend here in my neck of the woods. How’s the weather where you are? Anyone in Florida or anywhere on the path where Hurricane Milton is touching down? Prayers for all those who may be effected by this storm and your families.

Life has certainly been extremely busy for me, not to mention the last two days my pain has decided to show itself again with a vengeance. Yesterday I could barely walk. Today is a tad better, but not by much. Honestly, I haven’t felt this amount of pain in a long time. Hoping if I keep moving the pain will ease up or at the very least, disburse itself evenly throughout my body. Bottom line, anyone who knows me knows I don’t reach out to my medical team all that often for ‘pain and over the weekend when the pain started increasing, I did reach out to my neurologist/pain management doctor. Waiting still for his reply.

I did get my test results back from my Cologuard test and I tested positive for a change in my DNA. What does this mean? Colonoscopy, ugh. Not looking forward to that, but cancer does run in my family and my dad did have cancer when he passed. My grandpa on my mothers side passed from colon cancer and well, I recently consulted with a geneticist and I more then qualify for genetic testing. Wish me luck. I’ve gotta’ leave this in God’s hands so I don’t freak out. No matter what the outcome, I’ll be diving full force into my writing. I’ll keep everyone posted.

Today I wanted to chat more about our self worth. I came across this quote that spoke volumes to me. It’s right on point for helping me realize that I am worthy and I need to learn not to care so much what others think of me if that makes sense. For example, in my prior relationship I had to work incredibly hard to prove my worth.

If I went to a friends to quilt and didn’t get home right on time or early, my ex would give me the silent treatment. I was always terrified of getting in trouble with him and that’s truly no way to be in a relationship.

I have or had a friend that suddenly decided she didn’t want to be my friend anymore. In fact, she cut of six of her friends in less then a year, me and five others. Those 5 were friends of hers since grade school.

Makes my heart sad and I wish I could soften her heart, however, if I don’t know what I did, I can’t fix it and if she refuses to talk to me, there’s not too much more I can do other than pray for understanding and grace to be shown to both her and the friends she’s chosen to step away from, including me. Perhaps it’s for the best that she’s decided to pause our friendship. I say that because I can’t see the bigger picture of what He had or has planned for me or for any of us.

“Hey, if someone treats you like crap, just remember that there’s something wrong with that person, NOT YOU! Normal people don’t go around destroying other human beings!”-A worthy woman-Proverb 31.

I’m not saying my friend, ex friend has treated me poorly or like crap, she’s simply decided to end our friendship.

I know there are many people who can relate to being ghosted or dropped as a friend. I know some folks have been treated like crap and I know others have been treated unfairly, however, much of the time if not most or all of the time, it’s not anything we’ve done. It’s not our issue, though we may try to fix the problem or even accept the negative, bad or crappy treatment. Most of the time, the problem lies with the other person and nobody deserves to be treated like crap.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m in no way saying we shouldn’t own our part in things, what I am saying is, there will be people we come across in this life that have demons they’re dealing with and they take it out on others. In turn, they treat folks like crap. Not acceptable and not okay and most definitely know this, there is nothing wrong with you and you don’t, we don’t deserve to be treated like crap, bottom line!

“How they treat you defines them. How you treat others defines you..”-Rita Zahara.

No matter how others act or even treat us, we have the choice in how we respond. We shouldn’t accept crappy treatment towards us and we should never treat others like crap in return. No tit for tat on how we treat others. Treat others always with dignity and kindness.

“Treat people as if they were what they should be, and you help them become what they are capable of becoming.”-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe.

We can make a difference in this world if we can stop returning negative with negative. It’s not always easy, at least it’s not always easy for me. Sometimes I allow my anger to get the best of me. I want justice right away, however, I need to remember, it’s not on my time. It’s not for me to expect things of others or from others. I can’t change the way they act or receive, but I can change the way I receive and the way I act.

“One of the most evident signs that we are drawing closer to the Savior and becoming more like Him is the loving, patient and kind way which we treat our fellow beings, whatever the circumstances.”-Ulisses Soares.

My dear readers, never ever forget how worthy you are and don’t forget, nobody should ever treat us like crap. There’s nothing wrong with you. There’s nothing wrong with me. The problem lies most of the time, with them.

On a final note, “Life is a lot more fragile than we think. So you should treat others in a way that leaves no regrets. Fairly, and if possible, sincerely.”-Haruki Murakami

Thank you for stopping by and reading. Sleep well my friends and until next time, don’t forget, Love Life++ Hugs

Photo below is of a glorious sunrise I witnessed the other day. Hope you enjoy