Girl Tribe

Happy Wednesday,

How are you all doing on this amazing Wednesday afternoon? I hope all is well in your neck of the woods. Can you believe it, we’re half way through another week of 2024. Crazy how time flies. Shoot me a text or drop me a comment, I’d love to hear what everyone has been up to or what your planning for the upcoming weekend.

The other day I was talking with John about how blessed I felt having a girl tribe. I have this circle of friends I can count on and we have fun being together. This is something so new for me. Sure, I do have and have had friends over the course of my life. Some are still dear and close friends whom I deeply treasure, but I’ve never been a part of a group of friends where we all get together, go to lunch, hang out at someone’s home, check in on a regular basis to make sure everyone is doing well on a group chat. Having this is amazing. I’m not in anyway discounting friends I’ve had for many years, they are still a huge part of my life and I love them dearly. It’s just, I have this tribe and we all live in the same neighborhood. We’re friends, sisters, family. I don’t know how to exactly describe it, other than, I’m thankful for this group of ladies in my life.

Over the last few years I’ve heard John’s mom talk about her Kit Kats. A group of friends she’s had and treasured for a great portion of her life. She has other friends who are very important to her, but her Kit Kats hold a special bond with her. I’ve always enjoyed listening to Mina talk about her Kit Kats. I’ve always thought how wonderful to have that deep connection with a group of friends. Without even asking for it or thinking I could have that too, God gave me my tribe, something I never realized was missing.

Having friends is so important for our mental health, for our own personal growth and to help us through the bumps in life. Our tribes are there to help us to celebrate our victories and comfort us in our darkest moments. They want us to succeed. They cheer us on. They ultimately, have our back.

“I cannot stress enough how important it is to find a like-minded tribe who believes in you so ferociously that on the days you feel like you can’t, they remind you that you can.”-MW Facets.

Many of us have partners in life. The person we fall asleep with every night and wake up with every morning. They are the person we go through and build a life with. Our person is the one confidant we know is our everything, and sometimes, we get a bonus, a tribe of friends who compliment us and support us where our partners can’t. For me, it’s my girl tribe.

When we find our tribe of friends, it seems as though we complete our circle of people who are meant to stay in our lives. Our partners, our lovers our better half’s, they aren’t replaced by our friendships, our tribes, because they fill a part of us nobody else can. Their only flaw in our lives, if they are our true loves is this, they are love blind. They see us through the eyes of love.

John is my absolute best friend, and he loves me no matter what. John is my go to person. He’s the person I confide my deepest secrets, fears and troubles to. He’s the person who I know will never judge me harshly, and he’s the person who always makes me feel better and he gives me grace even when I don’t deserve it. Sometimes he sees me and my flaws in a cloud covered by love. My girl-tribe on the other hand, they shoot truth at me from a different perspective and I love them for it.

Sometimes in life, it’s nice to be able to call your tribe up and ask them to help correct your thinking on something. Sometimes, it’s nice to have them listen and show me where I need to soften my attitude on matters. They’re not in love with me, so they see me in a different light, which is a good thing. They help me be a better partner to John and in turn, I hope I help them be better partners to their men.

“Why we need best friends. Because they laugh at the same stupid things we do. Because they give us honest advice. Because they will be there for us, even if they’re thousands of miles away. Because they celebrate with us when we’re at our best, but still love us at our worst.”- Power of Positivity.

Girlfriends help us get through life. They cheer us on and they tell it like it is. We can vent to one another. We can share similar journeys and help each other through difficult times. We become family and sisters to one another.

“Build a circle of friends who are genuine, who are safe energetically, who are mature spiritually, who hold space and not animosity, who hold compassion and not judgment, who take time to check on you and your process, who grow through life with you, and genuinely wish you well.”-Lalah Delia

It’s not the amount of friends we have, it’s the friends who share life with us, those are the ones that make this life nothing short of amazing.

I love that Mina was able to take a road trip a few weeks back and connect with 5 of her Kit Kats. At 80 something, these women are still connected, though they live miles a part. They have a forever bond and when Mina reminisces about her days running around with her tribe, she grows a little younger. It’s a beautiful thing to see.

May we all find our tribe, big or small. May our tribes complete our circle of unbreakable bonds, and I hope when we reach 80 something, when we reflect on our years and experiences with our girl tribes, I can only hope we smile, we chuckle and perhaps, we’ll all grow a little younger in those memories too.

Friends, stay safe, smile and enjoy your day. Until next time, please don’t forget, Love Life++ Hugs.