Best life

Happy Tuesday,

How are you all doing on this wonderful Tuesday morning? All is well here. I’ve got my windows open and I’m sitting here writing to you amazing readers while listening to the chirping of the birds in the background. Life is good, thanks to our creator.

Today I wanted to talk about living our best lives. While I know we all struggle with hiccups and challenges along the way, life is still a blessing. Each day that I get to wake up and open my window and look out at the calmness of the water, I’m reminded in that moment of just how blessed I am.

It’s funny, after my divorce I was quite upset that my ex walked away with two houses and I got none. I was enraged at myself for not fighting harder to get at least half, yet at the end of the day, I’m okay. I might not own my home, but I have a beautiful place I call home. It took me awhile to realize this, after all, I bought my first home at 17. I paid off 4 houses in my 55 years of life and now, I can’t afford one on my own, not yet anyway, but that’s okay. I have come to accept that now is not my time. I’m working on patience, and leaving it in His hands. Even though I don’t own my home, I have a home, so this is my best life.

Through my difficult years I lost everything, including the once close relationship I had with my sons, but, I never stopped reaching out to them, telling them I loved them, and over time, we have come back together and now, it’s like we never missed a beat. We have a better relationship then ever before. We now communicate, openly and honestly. The boys needed time to process my choice to leave their dad and that’s okay. They needed my understanding of their feelings, and now, they see with clarity, it was never about them, it was about their dad and I not working anymore. Neither of us were happy.

For most of my life, I lived by other peoples rules. I lived to meet their expectations and I lived the way they wanted me to live. I could never live up to my mothers expectations of me, ever. All I ever wanted was a mother to love and accept me, but she couldn’t. I was a constant reminder of the man she hated most, my dad. When she looked at me, she saw him.

My ex, well, he was so dependent on me. To the point, he dumped his life in my lap and expected me to fix it all. He was never happy, no matter what I did. He navigated to the negative, instead of the many blessings we shared. It truly is amazing our sons turned out so well, and so opposite of him. My boys have a passion for life and I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I’m not trying to bag on my ex, he is who he is and when someone refuses to grow out of the mindset of blaming everyone for all the negative in your life, well, like the saying goes, if you aren’t progressing, you’re actually taking steps backwards. I do sincerely hope he finds his happiness someday soon. Nobody should live in so much sadness and loneliness.

I might not own my own home, not yet anyway. It is a goal of mine and it will be in His time. For now, I’ll keep doing what I can do in order to become truly healthy, both psychically and mentally. I’m beyond thankful for my doctors and after today’s visit with my new doctor, I am hopeful for a much healthier way of life.

I do need to keep focused on being a good person and not allowing the negative in life to take over who I want to be. I need to focus and not allow others to take up too much real-estate in my head, especially since none of them are paying rent.

I need to keep positive, continue being grateful and realizing, I am living my best life. The challenges are to throw me off track, and sometimes they do, but, if I keep focused on having the mindset of gratitude, every day will be my best life, challenges and all.

“Some people will be mad at you for not being who they want you to be. One of the biggest forms of self-betrayal is living your life by their rules instead of your own. Your task is simple: Be kind, be real, be humble, keep growing, and unapologetically live your best life.”-Yung Pueblo.

I think this speaks volumes to the amount of damage some of us allow others to do in our life. I know it’s hard when someone is mad at me, or us. It’s easier to conform to what others want from us rather then being true to who we truly are. I mean, I know for me, there’s times I sacrifice what I want to do in order to avoid letting someone down, or what I think would be letting them down. I don’t often speak up when I’m in pain and say no to things because I can’t say no. I really need to work on self-care a little more often then I do.

My mind assumes I’ll be letting someone down, when in reality, I am taking away their opportunity to show me kindness and understanding when I have to say no because of a health issue. I’m kinda robbing them of helping me.

In order to live our best life, my best life, I need to learn to say no to people. I need to set my goals as more of priority. It’s okay to help others, absolutely, but not at the expense of our own well being. It’s okay to say no from time to time, especially when we physically can’t and we are forcing our bodies to do more then it can truly handle.

How many of you struggle with being caught up in making yourself and your own self care lower on the to do list and making other peoples wants a priority? Me! I 100% believe there is balance in life. I believe we need to, or I need to find the balance in my life in order to live my best life. Balance is everything and I think if we are balanced in life, helping others, taking care of ourselves, I think we become more well-rounded and we then accomplish way more.

I wonder if it can be said, the more we do for others, I mean, doing so much it’s extreme, I wonder if we don’t let others help themselves, are we robbing them of their own inner magic? Are we crippling them so they can’t lead their best life and find their true potential? I wonder? Thoughts?

“It’s important to remember that we all have magic inside us.” J.K.Rowling.

In order to live our best life, maybe that life is just waiting for the magic to awaken within us. I’m certainly no expert on life, but I am able to share my journey with all of you and let you in on the goods and bad in my life. I’m able to, through my writing, recognize my weaknesses and my strengths and they become more obvious in my life. I’m able to be at peace and find gratitude in the many blessing He’s provided for me.

If someone asked me today what I’m most grateful for, I couldn’t narrow it down to just one thing. I could tell you that I’m grateful to be alive. I’m grateful for my loved ones, my friends and family. John is a wonderful gift in my life, my amazing relationship I now have with my adult children is incredible. My home. My relationship with God. I think all of these things are what living my best life looks like.

Everything else I’m working towards will only be a bonus. When I become a published author, it will add even more gratitude to my life. When I become a homeowner again, I’ll be grateful too.

I am living my best life every day. I hope we all are, despite the challenges each day gives us. To live our best life is to find gratitude and grace in life. It’s the simple things, like waking up and getting a fresh start to try something new. It’s being able to embrace those in our lives. It’s being able to enjoy time alone and time with loved ones, family and friends. It’s our mindset.

Today is our best life. Today is our day to be kind, to be real, to be humble. Today is our day to grow as a person and today is the day we stop apologizing for living our best day and not allowing others to take away our gratitude.

Today we are living our best life. We are alive and that in itself is a gift many didn’t get.

I hope you all have a blessed day, and please don’t forget, drop me a comment and give me a like if you enjoyed reading today’s blog. Until next time, Love Life++ Hugs.