Happy Monday from Arizona,
How are you all doing on the wonderful and amazing April 8th eclipse Monday? Wow, that was a mouthful. Anyway, how are you doing today? All is well here. On a little vacay-business trip for a few days and I must say, the weather here in Arizona is perfect.
John and I arrived here on Saturday afternoon and spent some time with my close friend Jen and her husband. We bummed around, visited a ghost town, then stopped at a couple of their local favorites, and finally ended the evening chatting in their hot tub.
Sunday, we spent a lazy morning enjoying some coffee and more chat time. We then headed out to visit a local river and an amazing lake, where we enjoyed lunch with a view. The mountains here are so majestic. When you just gaze at the formations and the coloring that is so deep in reds, browns, with hints of oranges, purples and greens, you can’t help but give glory to our creator. I am in awe of how stunning the desert is.
As I sit here writing this blog, we are actually at the peak of the eclipse here in Arizona. The sky has a light blue background with gray clouds scattered just below. In the distance, there are deep gray clouds with peaks of deep white. I am distracted by the beauty surrounding me and I can’t wait for John to get off work so we can venture out to see more stunning views.
Today, however, before we head out, I wanted to write to everyone and talk about trust. I was listening to someone recently who was sharing some personal details about a family member of hers. This person, who was talking about her daughter, said her daughter works in two different states, so her time between states is split. The daughter is married and works part of the year where her home is with her husband and she lives on her own in the state she works for the other part of the year. She is mostly in her home state, however, she does spend at least 3 months out of the year away from home. Anyway, her husband has installed on her vehicle a GPS so he can track where she is. He’s also installed something on her phone and tablet, so again, he knows where she is at all times.
I didn’t think anything about this at first, however, as I listened more to the person talking about her family member, she went onto talk about how the husband didn’t trust his wife. Apparently, he doesn’t feel secure in their relationship, so, he likes to know where she’s at every moment of every day.
I couldn’t help but wonder how the wife feels in this relationship.
Now, I have a problem with getting lost or turned around from time to time. Something with the accident I was in has caused me to lose my sense of direction, even in areas I’m really familiar with.
With my issues, I’ve asked John to put a tracker on my phone so he knows how to find me should I need him. It’s scary getting turned around.
John agreed, but in no way is this having to do with trust, at all. Mine is for safety reasons.
I can’t even imagine what it would be like to have my husband feel the need to track everything I do. A marriage should have the most unimaginable, amazing and loving trust, otherwise, you live in a fear bubble.
Why a fear bubble? My opinion is that if your partner doesn’t trust you, then everything you do, you begin to question yourself, but worse, your partner questions you. Being questioned can cause resentment and frustration in a relationship. If we develop a fear in everything we do because we are always afraid of doing something that could in someway cause a trust issue, our foundation is crumbling. Even stopping at the store on your way home from work without letting your partner know, if there is no trust, this simple thing could cause a non trusting partner to question your intentions.
John and I have this unspoken trust. I never question him, nor, does he question me. When we are apart, I never worry or think about what he’s doing. I trust him. We do communicate and we do tell each other our daily plans, and it’s safe for both of us if we don’t give each other a minute by minute break-down of our day’s happenings, or if we forget to mention we went or did something without telling the other.
“Trust is to human relationships what faith is to gospel living. It is the beginning place, the foundation upon which more can be built. Where trust is, love can flourish.”-Barbara Smith.
I have the most amazing love story. John has truly shown me what it’s like to be loved unconditionally. With the level of love he shows me, I never want to take that for granted, nor do I want to betray his trust. Having someone give me his heart completely, he not only gave me his heart, his love, but his trust.
Being trusted by your partner is a gift. “I trust you” is better than “I love you,” because you may not always trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust.”-unknown.
Where is the trust in some relationships and will those relationships last without trust? I’m not sure they can. When we fall in love, or when we are are falling in love, we begin to give our hearts to the other person. Have you ever given someone your heart and they walked all over it? I have. The pain of having your heart broken by the person you gave it to is one of the hardest things to forget. For me, I still have a wall up, but patiently, John is helping me take it down, one brick at a time.
We have to have trust in our relationships, otherwise, we are setting ourselves up for a bad fall. If I can’t trust the man I’m with and he can’t trust me, all we have is a lose foundation. With communication, honest and open communication, we build on that trust.
From the very beginning of our relationship, I told John everything, from how I felt about life, what I was feeling in those first few moments together and why I left my marriage, but more importantly, I shared with him the things I did to break down my marriage. John listened with an open mind and without judgement. John accepted me, mistakes and all and for the first time in my life, I found someone to love me unconditionally. I never feel like he looks at me and wonders who I am, because he knows. He knows me better than anyone, because we talk to each other, and we listen.
Building our relationship with open communication has led us to an unbelievable trust. We can talk openly, even about things that bother us. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt, John trusts me and I can tell you, I trust him.
Our love story is wonderful. It is built, not only on love, but on trust and respect. We have a never ending love story because we never have to wonder about the other persons intentions. We know we have each other and no matter where we are in the world, when together or apart, we have trust.
I never want to live a life where either of us lacks trust in the other. I can’t imagine having to be tracked by the person who holds the key to my heart and I don’t ever want him feeling like I have to track him.
Wherever I go, or whatever I do, John is always in my thoughts and he’ll forever be in my heart. We trust each other, so I have no doubt our love will continue to grow and flourish. Wherever we are in life, the trust we have for each other and in each other, will continue to grow and our foundation will become that much stronger. Our love is unbreakable because we have trust. We have love. We have communication. We have each other.
My dear readers, I hope you all continue to build on your relationships, making them rock solid. Trust in one another and if you have doubts, talk to each other. Open those lines of communication and build on your trust, because without it, you could be in store for some shakable footing on which you tread.
Just my thoughts.
Well guys, it’s time to venture out for a little site seeing. I hope you had a wonderful weekend and I pray your week is as wonderful as you.
Until next time, don’t forget, Love Life++ Hug
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