The Choice

Happy Friday:

How are you all doing on this wonderful Friday morning? I do hope today is as amazing as you my dear friends. Today couldn’t be more perfect. The weather is promising some rain, but it’s still beautiful. Today is even more of a perfect because John is here. The calm he brings to our home is priceless.

Yesterday, when John got off work, we jumped on the golf cart and headed over to Holiday Harbor and enjoyed being close to the water, we even had a margarita or two. John said he was grateful for last night too. Something about being by the water opened doors for us to talk. We once again, shared hopes, dreams and visions for the future. Every moment of last night was perfect. Tonight, I have an MRI and ugh, those creep me out, but hopefully, this will be the last of them.

This weekend promises to be a quiet one. Just going to enjoy each other, maybe take a walk or two, see another sunset or just hang out and enjoy a fire. John will work a little, and I’ll work on my writing. No real plans, and that’s just what we needed. Oh, we do need to attend a duck derby on Saturday, but that’s only for an hour or two and we’ll be surrounded by friends, and fun and laughter.

John shared with me when he got to our lake house his new mindset he’s putting into place. He shared with me that he wants to bring more positive to the world. One way he plans to do this is when someone asks how he’s doing, he wants to say, “fabulous.” It’s a response people rarely hear. Can you imagine someone reaching out to shake your hand and they said fabulous to you in the most excited way? Sure, that could be a shock at first, but think about it. Even if we’re having the not so greatest of days, we should have something to be grateful for. Maybe all it is was being able to get out of bed this morning. I suppose my point is this, life is full of so much negative, maybe it’s time to make a different choice. Start out small and show excitement for those we come into contact with. If nothing else, we might just put a smile on someone’s face. Not a bad pay day, making someone smile. Speaking of which, I just had a thought about my dear older neighbor Chuck. I think I feel a quick visit coming his way. If I can’t make him smile, I know he’ll make me smile.

I’ve had a few negative interactions towards me this week, thus, this blog. I’ve had some positive ones too and for those, I’m so grateful. I’m seeing light at the end of my tunnel. I’m grateful for the coffee time with my friend Erin this week. I am grateful for the painting and dinner time with my friend Cindy and I’m grateful for my amazing friend Kathy who sent me this beautiful quote. If I had any negative in my mind, it was gone after reading the quote. “Today. I will not stress over the things I can’t control, and I will enjoy this beautiful day.”-Brigitte Nicole.

This quote alone was enough to rid me of negativity today. Kathy knows me oh so well. She knows I overthink things and I feel the need to have answers to things at the moment I can’t control. It’s hard, isn’t it, to let go. My mind says, “you can’t control this, let it go,” but my ego on the other hand says, “figure it out.” Some things just aren’t in my power to control nor figure out. Patience is something I’m learning in droves. Letting go and letting God.

I love John’s idea of being excited when someone asks how he’s doing. I can only imagine how contagious his enthusiasm could be met with. John’s a super happy, positive guy anyway, it’s just who he is. He’s a very passionate man. He embraces life, he’s made the choice to be happy and find the good in every situation. Even when someone doesn’t treat him right, he’s still finding a way to be at peace and offer kindness back.

“If you ever get the chance to treat them the way they treated you, I hope you choose to walk away and do better.”-Najwa Zebian. This is my option at this point in my life. I have to choose to walk away from certain situations and not allow them to hover over and cripple me. I have found myself getting stuck again, stuck in allowing someone so much control that my mind won’t quiet.

I reached out to a couple of my friends last night and one of them said to me in a nutshell, “stop giving power to this person, don’t let fear consume you.” My friend said to me, “he can only get what you allow, so don’t allow it. Let him call anyone he wants; it only shows he has something to hide.” So true. Sometimes silence is best. I just need to step away and keep quiet and if it be God’s will, my actions will bring God glory and show the darkness of the person who has made his choice to hurt me.

If I ever get the chance to treat him the way he’s treating me, I will choose to walk away and do better. My aha moment. I am choosing to walk away and do better. I deserve better and if others make the choice to take his side and believe the lies, then, that’s their choice. My choice is to continue on my journey and show gratitude for what the Universe has given me. I have family, I have friends, I have friends who are family, and I have the best support system, thanks to the choices of those in my life, the choice they made to stand by me and love me. Thank you!

The choice is ours. The choice to be what we want, to explore and grow and allow the Universe to guide us and help us stay on the path that was meant for us to be on.

John reminded me this morning about a dream I’ve had for a long time. He said, “we need another Wayne Dyer.” I told him, that’s me, that’s my dream. He said, “then get working on it. The world needs that kind of teacher.”

My dream has been to write books to help others. My dream has been to have my podcast up and running, talking on subjects that resonate with others and help them to see their value, especially women. I’m not a man hater. I’m not a man basher. I love my man and men are amazing, however, some women, including myself were raised to not see our value. I married a man that helped me dimmish my worth and value even more. He would remind me that I held no worth. I don’t want anyone to ever feel the way I felt and continue to feel.

While I continue to work on me, I want to help you work on you too. You are amazing. You are valuable. You rock this world and you have so much to give. The power of prayer. Use it. If you don’t know where to start, simply start with, “help me.” If that doesn’t resonate, then maybe start with, “guide me.” All I ask of you is this, have a listening ear. Look for the signs. God’s hand is reaching out to help you, you just have to make the choice to extend yours to him. He’ll be finding you real soon. I promise.

Remember though, sometimes the answers we want and expect aren’t in line with God’s will. Something better might just be around the corner. We might not see it, but God does.

Well guys, that’s all I have for now. I do hope you are well, staying safe and enjoying life. I hope you make the choice to find today beautiful and if not, that’s okay, please make the choice to find just one positive energy in your world today. Even if it’s just appreciating waking up. Together, we can change the world for something better.

Until next time, Love Life++