Life Lesson

Happy Friday,

The weekend is finally here, well, in a couple more hours the weekend will officially be here. What a week it’s been and this weekend promises to be a busy one too. Tomorrow, John, Grant and I get to go to an All American BBQUE. I’m excited. I hear ribs are on the menu and I’m making a nice dessert. Everyone is bringing something All American to share, so it should be quite the menu. I’ll let you all know next week what that dessert was and how it turned out. Oh, tomorrow, I’m going to go test drive a car. I’m nervous about buying one right now, yet, I have to believe enough in myself to know that if I buy it, I’ll make it work. Driving my aunt’s car is super hard on my leg. It’s stick shift and when I drive it at all now, my left leg is in pain for days. Trying to learn patience at the same time, trust my path. I’m a bit confused right now, so deep breaths and fingers crossed, I make the right decision.

Today I wanted to vent mostly. You see, I’ve tried to live my life treating others in a kind, loving and understanding way. I try to always be honest and recently, I’ve taken a step back and watched people. It’s amazing to me how people can lie and still get ahead. I feel like there is no consequence anymore for bad behavior and it makes me question life and society. People lie in a court of law and get away with it. People lie to get out of doing things. Kids lie to their parents and teachers and seem to get away with it.

I have a friend who is a teacher, and they were telling me that even when a kid lies to them, there’s not too much they can do because they’ll get the wrath, not only of the parent, but the school too. Something has gone terribly wrong now that parents are afraid of their kids, and this carries over into adulting when those kiddos get jobs. We’ve created this society where an employer can fire you if you look at them wrong and an employee can sue if they don’t like something you’ve said. I wonder how we lost respect in the workplace. Maybe it’s because we lost it in our homes?

I know this gal who worked for this big corporation, and she was having a conversation with a co-worker on her lunch and the two were joking around, and another co-worker overheard bits and pieces of this conversation, that this person was no part of, and this person went to HR and the two people who were having a private conversation were told to either resign or they would be terminated. The gest of the conversation was referring to another person they both knew, who wasn’t an employee, as a BUTT! Now I agree, if you are talking and someone can hear what you are saying, then perhaps the conversation is too loud, or shouldn’t be spoken of within ears reach, however, it was a lunch period and there were no names involved and someone heard only bits and pieces, yet HR’s hands were tied to the point of looking at a law suit because this person was offended by the word ASS, so two, really good employees were asked to find other employment. No write up, no warning, just move on. I assume there’s a little more to the story, yet, it still seems as though simply

I’m sure HR didn’t want to take this route, but to save the company from a lawsuit, they did what they did. It seems that basic compliances are up for debate and subject to interpretation and lying anymore seems to be more of a norm then a jaw dropping whoa moment!

Kids these days, they have their parents in fear of disciplining them. So much back lash from discipling a child anymore could land a parent in front of CPS, or the child making the home life a living hell. Children seem to be more in control and I’m not exactly sure how we got there. Once those kiddos grow up, they go into the work force, changing the dynamics of good ol’ fashion work ethics. I feel we are in a vicious cycle.

John and I were chatting this morning and we were saying that life is meant to be hard from time to time, that’s how we grow and learn. As I sit here writing this blog, I’m wondering what life lesson there is to learn from watching so much dishonesty? Is it liars get ahead more than the rest of us who work our tails off to maybe get ahead? Maybe the lesson is, morals are out the door? I don’t know, and for a brief moment I thought, maybe I should just take up lying, I mean, I see how there’s no immediate consequence, but just thinking that way I got the biggest knot in my belly and a lump in my throat. I can’t. It goes against everything I believe in and stand for and I’m so grateful to have family and friends that feel the same way.

I look at my sons who are honest, hardworking young men and I can still see good in the world. I see my friends who are the most giving, kind and loving people and they refuse to compromise their ethics and I admire them so much, then, I look at John who works hard and he refuses to lie or toss anyone under the bus to get ahead, and I know he can lay his head on his pillow at night knowing he did his best for the day, yet I still wonder why some people can do the things they do and still get ahead. I suppose I should pray to God for strength and understanding or maybe I should just let go and let God, because I really don’t understand how we’ve gotten so far away from a simple thing called honesty. I suppose this is my lesson in life right now.

When I think about it, as long as I’m living my life to be true, why should I worry about what others do? I’m not sure why I let it hurt my heart so much. John says it’s because I care too much about others. Whatever the reason I allow things to bother me, I am resolved to make a difference in this world. I hope through my new blog and my podcast, I can make that difference.

Well guys, in case you haven’t checked it out yet, go have a listen. The link is below and don’t forget, until next time, Love Life++