I’m Not Ignoring You

Happy Monday,

Hope your weekend was a good one. What was the best part of your weekend? I would love to hear from you, so drop me a comment or send me a message and just let me know how you are. My weekend was busy, yet amazing. Saturday I was honored to be at my friend Jeannie’s “sons” most special day of entering the monkhood. Gosh, I hope I said that right. Anyway, Saturday was amazing, learning and being a part of something I’ve never had a clue about. Sure, I knew there were monks, however, I had zero knowledge on what their ceremonies are like, what some of their commandments are about. If you ever have a chance to visit a Buddha temple, please go. It is a very special place.

After the Buddha ceremony, I came home and then Jeannie invited me over for some more Thai food, a couple of drinks and some great friendship interaction with Lew and Ubon and my niece Carly. I will be honest, when I got to Jeannie’s, I had an array of questions about the different traditions that took place at the temple, so I picked at Jeannies brain, and she was so loving to answer all my questions. She even invited me to Temple with her in the near future. I can’t wait to go back and learn more of her religion and one thing is for sure, I am so appreciative for being able to have an open mind and be able to go and learn.

Lately, I feel like I’m in a bit of an overdrive and not accomplishing much. I’m sure you can all relate. Seems like I just can’t catch up. I think it’s time to regroup my thinking and get back on track. So, with this being said, I thought the following quote was very fitting.

“I’m not ignoring you; I’m overwhelmed. I wake up. Someone needs me. I go to work. Someone needs me. I get home. Someone needs me. There are dishes in the sink. Clothes in the dryer for the third time. Baths are to be taken. Toys need to be picked up. People to be fed. I feel like each passing year, I almost have less free time, but yet I work more. I’m not ignoring you. I’m breathing. Trying to find peace and quiet in this overthinking mind. I’m trying to catch up on housework. Trying to be a good mom. Trying to make sure everyone around me is taken care of. I’m not ignoring you, I’m exhausted.”-Kayla Mundt.

We as women seem to take on the world at times and we at other times, fail to communicate with our partners, husbands or significant others that we are just tired. I believe men in general try to understand us; however, they don’t get it when we sometimes have a tense moment when a wrench is thrown in our giddy-up and something new is added to our plates. When we shut down, it’s not because we are angry, upset or disconnecting from you, it’s simply, our minds are racing a hundred miles an hour and we are trying at times so hard not to break or lose our cool.

I know we make it look easy, all the things we get done, but believe me when I tell you, we lay awake at times wondering if we are good enough. We play back our days over and over again hoping we didn’t’ snap at you or the kids, thinking maybe we should have handled something differently or maybe done a little more around the house to make your life better.

As women, we are wired to take care of our homes and our families, and we tend to at times become frustrated when we say, finish cleaning the kitchen and then someone in the family comes in right behind us and puts dirty dishes in the sink without even rinsing them off. We feel unappreciated to say the least and then, we tend to allow those little things to brew within us. We should say something, however, it’s possible we are so bugged we just continue to let it stew within us. For me, one popular thought is, it’s not my home, it’s our home, so rinse that dish. Petty, I know, but it’s how some of us gals are wired.

One thing I’ve learned from raising a family of my own is, the house responsibilities shouldn’t and can’t fall all upon one person. The family is often referred to as the family unit, hence, everyone within the family home needs to do their part. Most couples go into a relationship with the mindset of wanting that person you are choosing to be your partner, therefore, a partnership in all aspects of the family, not just the ones that make your life easier.

I watch some of the young couples I know and I’m proud of them. Anthony, a young man that I’ve known since he was twelve or so, anyway, he’s a police officer and a new father. I was blessed to have him bring the baby to my home and I was so impressed how involved he was with his baby. He would drop what he was doing to help Ashley, the mommy. It was just what he did, and it warmed my heart to see it. My son Kevin, another fine example. When I’ve had his lovely girlfriend’s family over for dinner, he’s the first to jump up and clear the table so his future mom doesn’t have to get up. Even when I tell him I’ll do the dishes, he insists on clearing the table and rinsing the dishes. Whenever he comes to my home, he makes sure all messes are cleaned up.

It’s wonderful to have someone like John who for the most part sees me needing help and jumps right in to helping. Sometimes he’ll tell me, “I’m a guy and clueless, so please just tell me you need my help and I’m there and he is.” I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it when he helps me. It makes me feel more loved and appreciated. He’s a fine example of how a partner should be. If we find ourselves struggling, we have to learn to communicate, and on the flip side, guys, sometimes we are so overwhelmed wanting to make our houses a home for our family, we seem like we’re ignoring you, but really, what is happening is, we are treading water and are trying to figure out how to stay afloat, especially when we are sideswiped with something new being added to our already hectic and busy schedules.

Well guys, that’s all I have for now. I’ve got to head out to meet up with Kaitlyn and then I need to get home as I’m a little behind on my own schoolwork. Until next time, please don’t forget, Love Life++