Step Out

Happy Monday,

How is everyone doing today? How was your weekend? It’s such a beautiful day out today. The weekend was a bit hot, but that’s okay, it made me appreciate having a pool to go to and a lake to enjoy. God’s little subtle reminders of his blessings. Gotta love how he works. Shoot me a text or better yet, drop me a comment, I’d love to hear from you and to hear how life is treating you.

Life here is good. I was able to see Tommy once last week and Kevin came by twice. I do love my kiddos and cherish every moment with them. I was also lucky enough to go and see my aunt and John and I topped Sunday evening off with spending the afternoon with our dear friends, Art and Laura. Always a good time with them. We all enjoyed a couple of margaritas at On the Border.

Since visiting Hawaii I’ve been so inspired to not only finish my book, which is right there on the finishing edge, but I’ve also felt this pull to do a raw and uncandid podcast or YouTube channel with John, details to follow once we get it up and running. Oh, and I’ve started a new little side business, well, I’m in the process of starting it. I don’t have enough product to launch it just yet, but I’ll get there by the end of summer. Can’t wait to share with everyone my product.

Today, I wanted to share this quote I recently read, and I want to dedicate it to everyone who reads it and thinks life has slipped right by you. I’m here to tell you, life begins when you decide to start living. “It’s never too late to reinvent yourself. Start a new career at forty. Fall in love at fifty. Learn to dance at sixty. Start a whole new life at seventy. Stop saying you can’t. You can and you should. Dreams don’t have an expiration.”Ravewolf.

I’m fifty-three years old and I’m starting a new lot of things, not just one thing. I’m in the process of writing three books, starting a new little side business and writing my blog. Oh, and I’m in school too, trying to get certified in nutrition. I’m a hot mess trying to get it all done, but that’s okay, I’m trying. What are you trying today that’s new? I’d love to hear all about it, and I’d love to give you a big shout out for just doing, believing and following your dreams.

You see, my whole life, up to this point, has been pretty much living for the future, instead of living for the present. I gave up opportunities to become educated, I didn’t always embrace the moments that were right there in front of me. Heck, I didn’t even celebrate my birthday until I was forty-eight. I could sit back and say, “I’m too old to learn all the things I’ve always wanted to do, but then my old life wins and I loose, big time. I miss out on new things.

“Step out with confidence and make a dent in the world today. Pick out your projects and pursue your passions with style and add a winning smile! The Universe reminds you that it falls in love with a stubborn heart. Be uncompromising and keep moving forward. Difficulties dissolve and disputes diminish when you own your power.”-manifesting.

No matter what is going on in life, I hope we can all, step out with confidence and put a dent in the world in a positive and loving way. I hope we can find a new passion, pursue our dreams, after all, dreams don’t die. Life is such a gift. Every breath we take is a gift. I think it’s time to unleash those talents we may have buried deep inside of ourselves. One thing I’ve always wanted to do was, learn to dance, so I asked John if he would go with me once a week to learn line dancing. It will be a nice date night if nothing else. I’m also excited to start our YouTube channel or podcast, not sure the difference totally, or which one we’ll do, but I’m excited to take a leap of faith and get to going on my new channel.

More than anything, I want to leave this world leaving no stone unturned. I want to buy my car and just get up one morning and pack a bag and go. I want to, I need to take a road trip and feel inspired by the things I see. I’ve always wanted to just go somewhere, and once I get my little car, that’s just what I will do. I used to fear that sort of thing, but now, I am excited for an adventure. I’m ready to step out and just do life.

One of my biggest goals in this life is to share my experiences of my life in hopes of showing other girls who are just starting out that it’s a true gift, not only to yourself, but to your future partner if you embrace your youth by taking the advantages it offers. You see, when we as women have outside interest other than our families, kids, husbands, partners, then we are bringing a priceless gift to our relationships. We are bringing the best us possible. We are first, our own person, and we can truly complete one another, when we are both our best person. We’re whole person, and our partner is a whole person and together, we are complete, if that makes sense.

I know for me, getting married at seventeen years old, I was clueless on so many levels. I had no idea how to think for myself. I gave power to my husband. I had no worldly knowledge in anything. I did have a job; however, I went to work, came home and did very little interacting with my co-workers. I lived my life to make my husband the best person he could be and while doing that, I lost me in the mix. I had nothing to bring to the table as far as conversation, other than, cooking, cleaning, the kids, and of course, religion. Then, one day, I found fabric and I found a passion to quilt. I also found a passion to cross-stitch, and when I began to take time for those little things I enjoyed, my husband became quite jealous and would encourage me to stop doing them. You see, I was taking time away from making him the center of my world. I put him first, and thought very little of myself, and the day I began finding myself, he didn’t like it, and I get it, I spent a whole lifetime putting his passions, desires and wants ahead of mine, mine never mattered, because I didn’t let them matter early on.

In my new relationship, I have learned that it’s a healthy thing to have my own interests, no matter what those interests are. One thing John and I do is, we take time to go out with friends for a breakfast or lunch, even a dinner here and there. Every Sunday, John enjoys a couple of hours going to breakfast with his buddies and when he comes home, he’s so alive, he’s happy and it’s not because he was away from me in the sense of breaking free, he was away from me being a guy, enjoying some guy time talking guy talk. When I go out with my friends, we enjoy girl talk, we enjoy common hobbies, and just being girls. Just because we’re moms, wives’, partners, we are still, or should be, Indvidual’s.

Currently, my son’s girlfriend of five years is in Italy, without my son and you know what, that’s awesome. She went to study abroad for three weeks and she’s having a great time, and he’s home, enjoying his buddies and doing guy things. One day, if and when they get married, there will probably be a lot less of traveling like that apart from one another, but they are so confident in themselves and in each other, that they are taking time to do the things they want while they can, without all the adulting that comes when you are married or living together and having kids and careers. I admire that.

My dear friends, I hope you step out, embrace life. It’s a gift to give to your partner in life your complete self. Have your own thoughts, ideas and passions, just think of the life you will be sharing with your “person” if you have something that is yours. You can bring that something to the table and it can be “ours”, whoever you choose to share life with. It truly is a blessing to have and pursue the things that make you happy, and by doing this, it doesn’t give much room for resentment when your older, looking back on life and saying, I was never able to do something because it didn’t fit into the relationship back when we started out. Find you, find yourself, and when you do, you’ll be amazed at the wonderful people you draw into your life and better yet, you’ll be completely blown away how your relationship with that someone you love will prosper to levels you never imagined.

Well guys, that’s all I got for now. I have to head out and get my booster soon. Ugh, I hate shots and the vaccine, honestly, made me super sick last time, so I’m hoping that was a one off and I’ll be enjoying tomorrow to the fullest. Until next time guys, shoot me a text, leave me a comment and don’t forget, Love Life++