To My Kiddos

Happy Thursday,

How is everyone doing today? How’s your week been going? Mine’s been pretty busy, busier then I was prepared for, but that’s okay, all in all, it’s been a good week. Shoot me a text or comment here and let me know how things are for you all, I love hearing from everyone. Tonight I’m going to go check out the pickleball club. Oh, I won’t be playing, but a friend invited me to come see her play, so, I’ll head over and watch. I wish I could play, but with my balance lately, that’s not happening and with my migraines, absolutely a no go, common sense must be used. I’m just glad I get to go watch.

So, I wanted to put a blog out today. I’ve really been having wonderful new experiences with my boys and it’s got me really thinking about how lucky I am to be there mom. My boys, since I’ve been spending a little more time close to them, well, our relationships have really begun to blossom. I was honored to get to meet Kevin’s girlfriends family this week. What an amazing family he is apart of. They are loving and accept him as their own. I love seeing the relationship Kevin has with Jaggers dad. He has respect for Steve and you can see they have a good friendship too. I was so impressed to see just how attentive Kevin is towards, not only Jagger, but towards Norma, Jagger’s mom. I was so proud that night knowing this was my son. Oh, I’m always proud of my boys. Anyone who knows me knows that my sons are my world, but there are times that we as moms sit back and just are in awe of the actions of our kids and Sunday was one of those.

I suppose now, you can see where I’m going with this blog. It’s about being a mom and what my children mean to me and I’m sure any of you readers who are moms, or dad’s will be able to relate to this, because as parents, our kids change us in a way that you can’t explain until you are a parent yourself.

“My promise to my children. For as long as I live, I will always be your mom (parent) first and your friend second. I will stalk you, flip out on you, lecture you, drive you insane, be your worst nightmare and hunt you down like a bloodhound when I have to, because I love you. When you understand that, I will know you have become a responsible adult. You will never find anyone else in your life who loves, prays, cares and worries about you more than I do. If you don’t mutter under your breath “I hate you” at least once in your life, I’m not doing my job properly.”-unkown.

So, when my boys were growing up, I wouldn’t say I hovered over them, but I did want to know where they were going, who they were with and when they were coming home. I checked their homework, even through high school. That may have been a bit much, but it’s what I did and they got through school, graduating with good grades that got them into good colleges. I was exceptionally grateful that the boys chose to have good friends. They were apart of the basketball team and they formed friendships that have lasted them even into adulthood. One thing that I love is, Tommy’s friends became Kevin’s friends. They’re some pretty amazing young men. I was so glad they chose sports and made these amazing life long friends.

I was my children’s parent. They knew from the time they were little what they needed to do. School, homework, keep their rooms clean and help with the doggies. They were spoiled too. I’m very blessed that they were good kids, not too many issues while they were growing up. One was a little easier then the other, but my love was the same for them both.

I think what I liked about the above poem/quote was that, when we have a child, we need to parent them, teach them, guide them and give them a little rope so they can venture out into the world at a pace that is right for them. As parents, we know them best. I’ve talked to some people who have now control over their kids. I don’t know what other word to use instead of control, becasue, honestly, I don’t like to think of parenting as controlling another human being, especially a little tiny person. I instead like like to think of parenting as being a teacher and we should try and estabish a relationship with our kids where there is a mutual respect. I truly believe our kids are our greatest gifts and it’s up to us parents to help them grow into amazing people who will make this world a better place. I think parenting is the hardest balance and job in the world.

I don’t know if my kids ever said they hated me under their breath, I hope not, and if they didn’t that’s okay, I don’t feel that I wasn’t doing my job, I just feel that I never had an issue to the degree of having them hate me, but then again, maybe they did say it, either way, they turned out pretty okay.

I feel I was their parent when they were growing up. We had some good times together and now, I feel as though they are becoming my friends as well as being my sons. Not the kind of friends that they have with their peers or others, because no matter what, I’ll always be their mom first. It’s really cool though, the new relationships we are building. I love and have loved all stages of being a mom, even during the difficult times, because those times made us stronger, better people.

So to my kiddos, I love you, always have, always will. I’ve loved you from the moment I knew you existed and I’m honored to be called your mom. I know I’ve made mistakes in life and I’m grateful to you both for still accepting me and for loving me. I’m the luckiest mother in the world.

Well guys, I need to head out for awhile, but I do hope you are all doing well and until next time, don’t forget, Love Life++