Kissing..

Happy Saturday,

How is everyone doing this fine Saturday evening? Good I hope. All is well here. Not a lot to report other then the quilt I made for Jagger and Kevin is ready for pickup. I’m super excited to give it to them. My friend Susan came down today for a little shopping and a Thai lunch. Susan picked up and brought me my finished quilt from the long arm quilter. It turned out so amazing. I just need to add the binding. In other news, I do have a couple doctor appointments this week, but other then that, not too much to report.

On my evening walks I’ve been noticing all the pretty Christmas lights people have begun to put up. Something about the lights, so pretty. For as long as I can remember, I’ve loved the lights. Last year John took me around to see all the lights and decorations, and I was blown away by some of the houses we saw. There were some amazing light shows with music. There are certainly some fun homes out there. I remember we went to this one neighborhood and it was beyond amazing. Every house in the neighborhood was decorated. Christmas music playing, kids playing outside, hot chocolate stands, snow machines blowing. It was really awesome. I hope to get to do it again this year.

I was watching a Christmas show last night on Hallmark and the this couple was under the mistletoe and this little kid told the couple to kiss, so they did. As Susan always says during a Hallmark movie, they always kiss in the last five minutes. Anyway, it made me think about kissing and just how intimate and connected you feel to the person kissing you. It made me think about how special a kiss is when shared with someone you love. When I was scrolling through some quotes this morning wouldn’t you know I came across one on kissing. It’s entitled, “The Purity of a Kiss.”-Ilovemylsi.com. This quote or poem really shows how much power a kiss has in a relationship. “I think kissing is the most pure and raw form of physical contact there could ever be. Sex is intimate, sure, but you can have sex with anyone. A kiss though, my god, a kiss can change your world. A small touch between two pairs of lips can blow your mind. Whether it be short and sweet, long and intense. And when you find someone that looks at you like you’re more beautiful than a blossoming rose; you never want to feel another’s lips against yours ever again.” Kissing is essential in any couple relationship. According to rvcj.com, “kissing basically is to express how much you love and care for your partner. Kissing improves the bonding between the partners both at an emotional as well as physical levels.”

I suppose you can kiss anyone, I’m not sure, I haven’t kissed a lot of men. In my opinion though, I think in order to really kiss someone, you need that attraction, a connection of some sort. On rare occasions my ex husband would kiss me. I felt as though he didn’t love me or that he didn’t find me attractive because he simply wouldn’t kiss me. I felt as though I couldn’t kiss. Sadly though, he just didn’t find kissing to be something he liked or enjoyed. I developed one heck of a complex because of that, but it turns out, I’m actually pretty good at it. The question then comes to mind, is it normal to not kiss your partner in a relationship? According to independent.co.uk, not kissing your partner “is the first sign that you no longer love this person. Kissing is a commitment device-a signal to your partner that you are going to stick around.” I think this is why I lived most of my life thinking I wasn’t good enough.

Many experts say kissing is far more intimate than sex. You see, with sex, you don’t always need feelings. Sex can be between two people and you don’t even have to know their name, you don’t have too look at that person. It can simply be an act. You can close your eyes and imagine you are with someone else.

Elitedaily.com says kissing is built on nothing but feelings. “When you’re kissing, you have nothing in the world to hide behind. You’re at your most vulnerable.” Kissing is face to face, lips to lips. Rvcj.com says, “kissing is creating a moment which is far more intimate than the intercourse. When you kiss, you can feel the warmth in your heart, you can taste the sweetness of lips, you can experience the intimacy of the minds and bodies.” Ask yourselves these questions. “When else is your face so direly close to another’s? When else in your life are you in a situation when you have the opportunity to look at another person so closely? When else is your face so direly close to another’s? When else do you literally find yourself sharing the same breath (after all, breaths are the force of life!) with somebody else?-Elitedaily.com

In the same article in Elitedaily.com, it went on to say, “the greater, deeper, looming question is: What exactly is intimacy then? Is it strictly sexual? Is it more then simply intercourse? True intimacy is revealing the rawest, real, most stripped down version of yourself to your partner. It’s letting yourself get close to another person, both physically and mentally. It’s taking in a person’s scent. It’s basking in a person’s taste and crawling into their heart.” Intercourse doesn’t encompass all of that. Kissing does. “Kissing is the great metaphor for intimacy. We allow the essence of a person to land on our tongues, and as we kiss, we breathe each other in– the good and the bad. You can’t lock lips with another human for endless hours unless you have feelings for them beyond the realm of sexual attraction. Kissing is where the love, the passion, the FEELINGS are wildly expressed.” I think it’s safe to say, kissing is far more intimate than sex could ever be.

There is meaning behind each kiss. Quotesdaily.com explains a kiss this way. “What each kiss means. Kiss on the forehead: we’re cute together. Kiss on the cheek: we’re friends. Kiss on the hand: I adore you. Kiss on the neck: I want you, now! Kiss on the shoulder: You’re perfect. Kiss on the Lips: I LOVE YOU!” Don’t ever take your partner for granted. Kiss them daily. Kiss them often. Don’t ever let your partner feel you don’t love them because you don’t kiss them. Kissing is so important. Kissing gives your partner a sense of security with you, with your relationship. Kissing makes your partner feel wanted and desired by you. There is no making love without kissing, otherwise, it is purely sex.

To have someone take you in the palm of their hands and pull you close to them and kiss you like you’ve never been kissed, that’s true love, that’s commitment. Kiss that someone special in your life like it’s the last kiss they’ll ever receive. Kissing is a gift. It shows how much you value your partner. Kissing shows passion, intimacy and desire. It shows your partner just how much you adore them. “It is important in lovemaking and marriage. The passion and all the other stuff can get lost in your everyday life of work and kids when you are married. It is important to kiss and keep the spark alive in your relationship. It is important to show our partner how much they mean to you.”

I love to kiss. When John kisses me I can feel the love he has for me. Kissing is an incredible gift that you share with your partner. There is not a day that goes by that I doubt his love for me. Nobody can kiss someone the way he kisses me and not love you. I know now that wanting to be kissed and needing to be kissed by your partner isn’t something for the birds. It’s what keeps the relationship going. It’s what gives you security and it gives you a closeness like no other.

Who will you be kissing tonight or perhaps under the mistletoe? I do hope it’s someone special in your life and if it is, don’t forget to make their toes curl with your passion. Well my dear family and friends, I could go on for hours about kissing, but I think I’ll say goodnight for now. I do hope you are doing well and staying safe. I love your comments and texts. Keep them coming. Thank you for your love and support and don’t forget, until next time, Love Life++