Change is Growth..

Happy Thanksgiving Eve,

How is everyone doing this fine Wednesday? Good I hope. It has been such a beautiful week outside. I was able to walk around the bay the other day. I had a nerve study done on my legs and back and while it didn’t hurt, I sure as heck felt it later that day. The doctor assured me I would be feeling the pain within a couple hours and he was right. I even resorted to taking a Percocet. I sure hope that this test comes back with some sort of answer as to why I have certain issues. Today is going to be a busy day. I am in full crafting mode and hope to finish up a couple gifts for my brothers. I sure hope they’ll like what I’m making them. I did want to write another blog before starting my projects though. I don’t feel accomplished unless I’m able to write something during the course of the day.

I came across this wonderful quote on judgement. Seems that the Universe is guiding me on some sort of path regarding being judged, judging others and letting go and Letting God. This quote that I came across literally came along within hours of me talking to one of my very best friends. She called me to tell me that she loves my blogs and that somehow, my writing lately has been what she’s been feeling, but didn’t know how to express it or say it. My words express not only what she’s feeling, but what I’ve felt or am feeling too. My friend told me to keep writing and she thanked me. I know I told you all this before, but from the bottom of my heart, if I could make the difference in just one persons life, then I would feel accomplished. Knowing that some how, without even knowing what my friend is dealing with internally, that I’m able to put what she is navigating right now into words where she can relate, that is the greatest of compliments. As a writer you hope that whoever reads your work that they in some way can relate to what you are trying to say. This is why I feel I’m on the right path and that maybe my other good friend is right when she said, God has a plan for me.

The quote that I came across seems to go hand in hand with a couple of my recent posts. “Let them judge you. Let them misunderstand you. Their opinions aren’t your problem. you stay kind, committed to love and free in your authenticity. No matter what they do or say, don’t you dare doubt your worth or the beauty of your truth. Just keep on shining like you do.”-Scott Stabile. My friend that called me, well, she’s had a lot of drama in her life, with some extended family and dynamics. Who doesn’t have family drama right? My friend is the kind of person that would give you the shirt off her back if she even remotely thought you needed it. She has a passion within her like no other. She is truly one of the strongest women I know and yet, she will tell you otherwise. I am grateful to her for sharing some of her story with me. My friend tells me all the time, don’t worry about what others think of you. If they are truly your friend, then they know the truth. Basically, stay true to yourself. I am learning my worth, thanks to her and John and a few other people who are in my close inner circle.

I’ve been judged, I’ve been lied about. I’ve lost some who I thought were my true friends, yet, they’ve proven otherwise. You see, if you don’t believe a certain way, the way they do, then your worth becomes void and nullified. I won’t say I haven’t changed, because I have however, I think for the first time in my life, I have a voice. I’ve changed in that I’m becoming someone who thinks and I matter in this life. I was thinking, most of us have a hard time with change or adapting to it, but I think, in my opinion, it’s harder to accept someone else’s change. You see, when someone changes or grows, they become stronger, more entuned to themselves. Perhaps they even learn that though they respect your opinion, at the end of the day, that’s all it is, your opinion. “Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.”-Buddha quotes. If someone can’t accept us for who we are or we can’t accept them for who they are, then it’s better to part ways, don’t you think? I know it’s not easy, but it may be healthy for our own personal growth. I miss some of my friends who I truly valued in my life, but there are some that have said I’m dead to them because of choices I made that I thought were in my best interest. They simply didn’t agree with those choices. I’ve been told that’s their loss, but the pain is still there for me as well. It’s still a raw feeling. When you invest so much into something or someone, it’s hard to just erase them from your life. “Some people are going to leave, but that’s not the end of your story, that’s the end of their part in your story.”-LiveLifeHappy.com.

That’s a powerful concept and really puts things in a proper perspective. Life goes on and maybe it will be for the better. I think it’s okay to let people stay in our hearts, we can still love them, and we can let them go. They aren’t meant to continue on in our journey and that’s okay. “Today, I am choosing to wipe my tears, turn my face to the sun and remember you with joy in my heart instead of pain.”-Forevermissed.com. I think this fits not only when you lose someone in death, but when your friendships take a different direction. It’s okay to grow apart. Maybe it’s not them who is not to be apart of our journey anymore, maybe it’s it’s you and me who aren’t meant to be apart of their journey. Even if we part ways, remember this, if someone is meant to be in your life or you in theirs, they’ll catch up. The Universe has a wonderful way of directing things, if we listen and pay attention to the signs that is.

“No matter how hard the past, you can always begin again.”-Buddha. We grow, we change and we are all on our own journey. Some of our paths are entwined, some take us on a detour, yet, we all end up at the same destination. “No one here gets out alive.”-Jim Morrison. Everyday is a new beginning when we’re here in this world. It’s a new way to start over to treat others with kindness, because we don’t know what they are going through. With each new day, we are given the opportunity to write a new and better chapter in our book of life. “There’s a story behind every person. There’s a reason why they’re the way are. Think about that before you judge someone.”-Quotling.com. I think with all these powerful words, I’m going to work on changing my mindset yet again. I’m grateful for those that were apart of my life, I’m even more grateful for those that have stayed and I’m tossing judgment out the door, because I truly don’t know why certain people have chosen to walk out of my life. They changed, I changed and together we grew apart.

“Goodbyes are only for those who love with their eyes. Because for those who love with heart and soul there is no such thing as separation.-Rumi. While we may grow apart, we are still connected in memories of the times we shared. For my dear friend who is trying to navigate change in her life and can’t find the words to express them. For my dear friend who is trying to discover herself again and find a new normal in this crazy life, remember this, “you are not falling apart dear, you are falling into a different shape. You are going through a transformation, and that is never a bad thing. Your pieces are the puzzle of your unfinished self. Give it time, you will become the most refined version of yourself.”-Berkana, Vuno. My dear friend, even though life throws us a bump here and there, remember your worth and remember those who have come and gone in your life as a blessing. They may have simply taught you a lesson.

We are living in a crazy world right now. We don’t know what others are going through and we certainly shouldn’t judge them. We should accept their change, their growth and let them sore as their wings expand and they navigate through this life. Change is growth. Let’s get out there and live our best, most happy life possible. May we all embrace our uniqueness and share it with the world. Those that chose to stay are meant to be there. Those that leave finished their chapter in our journey, at least for now. I hope we can all end this year being a little kinder to each other, more compassionate and less judgmental. I hope we can all, Love Life++