Two Way Street

Happy Wednesday,

How is everyone doing this fine Wednesday? The mornings and evening are finally a little bit cooler. Love this weather. It motivates me to get things done, and boy, do I have a lot to get done. Aside from the house chores, I need to catch up on my mythology class and dive even stronger into my contractor course. My mind is racing on how I’ll get it all done. Deep breath. I can do it. What are you all up to these days? Ready for the weekend? Anything fun and exciting planned? This is my new blog site, so please try and leave me a little comment so I can see if things are up and running properly. Even if it’s simply a hello there, I’d really appreciate your help in seeing if this site will be a better fit for us all.

I read a motivational speech this morning and it was talking about relationships. It was talking about how if there is only one person invested in making things work, well, it’s basically a recipe for disaster. There was one part that really resonated with me. It talked about a one sided relationships and how they would drain you, kill you. A one sided relationship, “will leave your soul starving.”-R.M.Drake. You would think, when in a relationship that it should be a two way street. Obvious right? Not really. You see, a healthy relationship is one that is give and take. John says all the time that two givers make for the best relationships, but a giver and taker will zap you of all your energy. I personally think it zaps you of all your self worth.

When you have a relationship that is a two way street, it becomes “mutually enjoyable, mutually beneficial and mutually sacrificial.”-getenrichedquick.com. There are absolutely times in any relationship where one is giving a little more than the other, and that’s okay. Life happens, circumstances happen, but and that’s a pretty big but, when one of you only takes and only one is giving, as the only giver, you are left empty, lost and drained. We all seek love. We all want to be appreciated for our efforts. We all want and need to feel we matter and make a difference within the relationship. It is never one person’s work and responsibility to grow the relationship. When the efforts are a joint effort within the relationship, “the outcome is enormous.”-medium.com

I believe that we all want that storybook love. The once in a lifetime love. Is it possible to have a forever love affair? A forever love? I think so. You’ll have to work hard at it. You’ll have to both work hard at it. I did a little research on how to have a lasting relationship. According to scoopwhoop.com, you need to “treat each other like it started just today and you wish to keep it forever. Keep the romance alive. Surprise each other once in awhile. Be open to compromises. It’s okay to be vulnerable. Let your partner know the real you. Never take your partner for granted. Don’t bottle up feelings and emotions. Talk things out. Don’t let the bitter past dictate the fate of your relationship. Say goodbye to unrealistic expectations. Don’t compare your partner or relationship with others. Keep jealousy and insecurity at bay. If a discussion turns into a fight, take a breath and think if it’s worth it. Accept them. Don’t try and change them.Take an interest in their work and hobbies, supporting them and encouraging them. Make them feel valued. Tell them from time to time how much better your life is with them in it, and don’t forget, building a life together takes a lot more than love.”

A lasting and loving relationship works best and will succeed if you both are working at it. Relationships are a two way street. If you want someone to invest in you, then make sure you are investing in them. When it comes to the romantic relationships, how sad it would be to destroy the person whom you claim to love more than anything in the world. In time, if you aren’t investing in your relationship, don’t be surprised if they simply, walk away. Walking away from you is the hardest thing someone who loves you deeply can do. When they get the courage to finally walk away, realize this, it took a great deal of determination because they gave it their all. They gave you their all. They sacrificed who they were to make you love them. When they walk away, if they walk away, it’s because they deserve better.

Love is a two way street. Love is give and take. The worst feeling in the world is saying “I love you” and not hearing it back. Remember this if you truly love someone, tell them. You never know if it’ll be the last thing they ever hear. “Love is selfless. Love is give and take. Love is a two way street. If what you’re giving isn’t being reciprocated, you’re not being loved, you’re being used.”-Tony Gaskins.

Relationships are a two way street. We all have the power to create the best relationships or destroy the best thing that has ever happened to us. We all deserve to be loved and appreciated. Don’t take it for granted, you never know when it might end.

My dear family and friends, don’t forget, this is my first post on this new blog site. Please, please, please, leave me a comment so I know if the comment section is working. Thank you for reading and I look forward to hearing from you. Until next time, don’t forget, be kind to each other, love each other like nothing else matters and Love Life++